I've always said I like change as long as I'm in control of it, but realistically that doesn't always happen! In fact, things change constantly and sometimes it's hard to stop and catch a breath. Loved ones die; jobs end, as do relationships. People get promoted, couples get married, and babies are born. Guess what?
The positive changes can be as hard to adapt to as the negative ones.
So what can we do in order to soften the blow?
When a good change appears, grab it with both hands. You may not believe you deserve it, or you just may not be ready for it, but the only way to move forward is to see it for what it is, and to get the most out of it is to embrace the positivity, however, it shows up.
When a negative change is looming, start looking for alternatives before it actually happens, if you can. For example, if you know the job you have is looking like it is coming to an end or you are hearing things that are making you insecure, don’t wait to get laid off, but start looking for another job. Even if your current position hasn't changed, you will have gained valuable experience and maybe a better opportunity!
Change is constant, so we usually don’t notice the little or the expected changes; it’s when you are caught off-guard that you can get disorientated.
The trick is to know that it is just one of the millions of changes that are going to happen in your life and, good or not so good, do what you can to just roll with it.
Emotional changes can be the hardest to adjust to and hard to navigate especially when the waters are muddy! It may be a struggle, but you don’t have to suffer.
I'm a BIG advocate on seeing a therapist at any time,
but definitely in these situations.
Take responsibility for how you deal with changes.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you
decide your problems are your own.
Don't blame them on your mother, father, spouse, boss or the environment.
You need to realise that you control your own destiny and how you approach every change that comes our way!
If you are someone who hates change, then you are going to have to at least tolerate it when it happens. There is no law saying that you have to like what’s going on, but learning (at your own pace) to deal with the changes going on around you is a great survival tool. We used to say “Go with the flow,” and that may be the most comfortable way to deal with the future.
By Natasha Rae